IBMs* and MOBs*

Finding Your MOB*

3 Paths to Finding Your Mail Order Bride

There are basically 3 ways to look for a foreign bride. There could be dozens more, but these 3 are the main ones.

1. “Traditional” Mail Order Brides

Mail order brides have been a fixture in America since Jamestown. Men in colonial America or on the Frontier braved the arrows to steal the land and carve out a new civilization.

“The men of Jamestown desperately wanted wives, but women were refusing to immigrate. They had heard disturbing reports of dissension, famine, and disease, and had decided it simply wasn’t worth it. Consequently, barely a decade after its founding in 1607, Jamestown was almost entirely male, and because these men were unable to find wives, they were deserting the colony in droves.” –

Money and land but no women. Not worth it.

“An immediate influx of women was needed to save the floundering colony; its leaders suggested putting out an advertisement targeting wives. The women who responded to this marital request and agreed to marry unknown men in an unfamiliar land were in a sense America’s first mail-order brides.”

I believe the first African slaves were brought over about the same time, but that’s a different discussion for SJWs.

mail order brides arrive in Jamestown

These were just the first. The tradition carried over via different ethnic groups that needed women from back home, to ranchers and miners in the American West who were interested in women from anywhere.

Desperate men placed ads or responded to ads placed by the women back east.

“The nation’s gender geography was all out of kilter. In the West were thousands of unattached men who’d left everything behind to seek their fortunes. In the East were most of the women—and the Civil War would only compound the problem by leaving behind so many grieving widows and girlfriends.” –

Of course, the historical record may be of no interest to you, except to know that what is acceptable in marriage changes over time. Countries like China with a long history of arranged marriages has parents posting ads in the park to find husbands for their aging (late 20s) daughters.

For men with more money than time, the choice today is to look online at the mail order bride sites. (They hate this name. There is no mail order. You can’t buy a wife.)

In this day and age, you can peruse thousands of profiles and images and videos of mail order bride wannabes.

Big international dating and marriage sites work with local agencies in different countries to aggregate the profiles into one site. That gives you tens or hundreds of thousands of profiles to search for your perfect spouse.

If you are not careful, these sites can set you up for heartbreak and financial ruin, but a smart IBM* can overcome the issues. Remember Rule #1:

What I recommend is using the online dating sites to find out which country’s women give you a rise in your Levi’s. Then make plans to visit that country.

You best overall agency to work with is A Foreign Affair.


Why? They have the most tours and individual tour cities available. While they catch some shit from competitors, I believe they offer the best option especially if you want to check out a city or country you have never been.

The advantage of a Romance Tour is that everyone on the trip and the women who attend the socials are supposedly there for the same reason – to find a mate.

The women are decked out in their best outfits, and the alcohol is flowing. In a single evening, you can meet more eligible women than you have probably met in a lifetime. But you have to be smart about it and not waste your time on party girls who are looking to drain your bank account.

2. Travel to the county and do it yourself.

Some men like to hit a new country and check out the local action on their own. Marriage may or may not be part of the equation.

Now, the king of nailing women abroad is Roosh V. He’s semi-retired now, but his series of Bang _____ books covers a number of countries, as well as improving your day and night games.

On his site Return of Kings, you can find hundreds of valuable articles from a world traveling pickup artist. Just because you may be searching for a wife does not mean that you don’t need to have game. Women are women. If you are an arrogant asshole, you won’t get far in any country.

“ROK aims to usher the return of the masculine man in a world where masculinity is being increasingly punished and shamed in favor of creating an androgynous and politically-correct society that allows women to assert superiority and control over men. Sadly, yesterday’s masculinity is today’s misogyny.” –

Sites like YouTube have taken aim at him due to pressure from SJWs. You can see why on this video: 36 Things Wrong with American Women. (Only 36? I’m sure he could do more. Amazon has taken some of his books down off their site.)

Roosh V is tailored for the younger man, and most IBMs* should stick to the day game.

To go on your own to a new country like the Ukraine or China, study what you can before heading out. You will need weeks, not days to get started.

The good thing is that women will know that you are not a sex tourist. You can meet them at coffee shops, museums, and malls. Some guys even use the churches to find non-slutty women who are amenable to meeting a foreign guy, especially if they share the same religion.

All of this is day game. For most IBMs*, day game is all you have left. Nothing worse than being an old fart on a barstool trying to get in that 25ish slut’s pants – unless you are filthy rich and living off FU money.

3. Traditional Matchmakers.

This could be the best route if you have the money. They tend to be expensive because, quite frankly, it takes a lot of time and skill to do it right.

I will go into this area in a separate article. But if you have the money, this is the way the uber rich do it.

I’m looking into, a Ukrainian matchmaking agency in Kharkiv. It’s close to the Russian border, and things can get dicey at times, but AFA still makes socials there, so it is safe.

I don’t know the costs, but I’m sure it’s not cheap. The advantage of matchmakers is that they get to know you well, and find the type of woman you seek while weeding out scammers and inappropriate potential matches.

Diolli has a number of good YouTube videos with tons of info about Ukrainian women.

I look forward to expanding as I learn more.

~ Chaz